The holidays ae a time for love and family, but for those who have experienced changes to their family lives, this time of year can feel stressful and awkward. However, while things may change, divorce does not have to ruin the holiday spirit. Keep reading for five helpful tips to make the first holiday after a divorce easier.
Tip #1: Stay Present
While it may be over said in these situations, it is crucial that recently divorced parents keep in mind the situation at hand. Rather than focusing on the divorce or the reasons behind it, it’s crucial that parents stay in the present and focus on creating lasting holiday memories for their children. Meditating on the past does not improve the future or the present. Keeping the focus on holiday activities and the children ensures that new memories are not tainted by the old.
Tip #2: Make Plans and Stick to Them
The holiday season can be hectic whether families celebrate Christmas, Hannukah, Kwanza, Solstice, Chinese New Year, or a combination of all of the above, it’s crucial that families make plans so the holidays run smoothly.
After a divorce, may families may find that their plans become more complicated. The best way to solve this problem is by making a plan ahead of time. Spending time between houses, different family members, and on different conflicting days is stressful but with proper planning and collaboration between parents and family members, the holidays can run smoothly.
Tip #3: Collaborate on Gifts
In some cases, particularly after a contentious divorce case, gift giving around the holidays may become a competition. There is no need to compete with a former spouse for the attention of children. This kind of game is not beneficial for anyone and can be incredibly hurtful. One way to prevent competition is by collaborating on gifts. Collaborating on gifts ensures that the child receives meaningful gifts and lasting memories rather than over expensive presents and tension.
Tip #4: Holidays Are Any Day
While it is crucial to make plans and stick to them, it’s also important to recognize that the holidays can be on whatever date works for the parent. The holidays are not only the holidays because of the day, rather what makes the holidays special are the memories and people one spends them with. Children want to spend time with their family whether it is on the day of or the week after. If it is impossible or simply too stressful schedule gatherings on the day of the holidays, there is no reason why plans cannot be made for another day. The point is that holidays should be spent together.
Tip #5: Ask for Help
The first holiday season post-divorce can be a difficult one as families attempt to navigate their new lives. It is okay to ask for help and support during this difficult time. All the planning and preparation in the world may not take the place of familial support. Everyone needs a support system, and facing a new lifestyle takes its toll. What makes the holidays meaningful is spending time with loved ones however we can. Whether parents need childcare, assistance with gifts or scheduling, its crucial to seek out support and figure out the future with family.
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