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Records and kids may be focus for New York divorce prep

Dealing with a high-conflict personality may have played a role in many New York residents choosing to end their marriages. Though the decision may have felt right in order to move on to a happier life, parties likely know that they must first get through the divorce proceedings. Just the idea of going through tumultuous legal proceedings may seem draining, but getting ready to face the necessary process may help.

There are a variety of ways that individuals could prepare to handle a potentially high-conflict divorce. One important step is to obtain records that could prove beneficial in court. These records may relate to financial accounts and transactions, or to communications between both parties involved. The latter may be especially useful if one spouse has a tendency to provoke arguments.

Narcissism, communication issues could point to divorce

Many budding relationships often seem as if nothing could go wrong. New York residents who have found love may feel like they will be with their significant other for the rest of their lives and that their love will sustain them. Unfortunately, relationships and people can change over time, and many individuals come to notice the indicators that may signal that divorce is on the horizon.

For one individual, her red flag for a dissolving relationship was her inability to have an opinion. In the beginning, her spouse had made her feel as if she was not respecting him when it came to making family decisions. As a result, she ended up withholding her thoughts in favor of allowing her spouse to voice his.

Shared child custody may be worth consideration in New York

Facing custody issues may be a New York parent's worst nightmare. They may worry that their children will be caught in the middle of child custody disputes and proceedings that will cause everyone involved a considerable amount of stress. Apparently, this fear is relatively common and often results in similar custody outcomes: the mother gains primary custody and the father gets weekend time.

However, a recent study indicated that the conflict that is often feared during this time tends to be exaggerated. This means that sometimes parents may create more conflict than usually exists in hopes of obtaining custody of the kids. It was also reported that after the first few years of divorce, the initial feelings of contention and conflict tend to subside. By this point, though, custody decisions have already been made.

Creating a divide may help when dealing with divorce and work

Ending a marriage often means that New York residents may deal with numerous details and take a considerable amount of time to handle necessary proceedings. Because of the steps involved with divorce, parties may find themselves having to rearrange certain areas of their lives to accommodate court hearings and attorney meetings. As a result, some employees may worry about how to handle their personal situations in the workplace.

Due to the time dissolving a marriage requires, it may prove difficult to keep a divorce completely separate from work. Individuals may need to speak with their employers to inform them of the situations and to reassure them that work will be impacted as little as possible. In best case scenarios, employers will be as understanding as possible.

The likely impact of a divorce on your retirement savings

Whether you're divorcing in your 40s or in your 60s, the process can have a profound impact on your financial situation. Court costs and attorney fees can quickly add up, diminishing your liquid capital and savings accounts. Assets that you once took for granted, like the equity in your home, are now subject to division with your spouse.

When planning for retirement, you were expecting to share a residence with your spouse and potentially benefit from two retirement funds/pensions, as well as Social Security. Now, however, the same amount of money will need to cover two households and all your individual living expenses. It can be difficult to make up the difference between what you need to retire comfortably and what you will have left over after divorce.

Vague child custody terms lead to Gosselin dispute

It is not unusual for parents to have a difficult time communicating and getting along after divorce. However, because children are involved, these individuals often do have to come in contact with one another. Unfortunately, parents who do not work well together may find themselves facing child custody issues that could escalate into serious situations, even years after divorce.

New York residents may be interested in a recent dispute between former couple and reality television stars Jon and Kate Gosselin. The parents of eight were reportedly at an orthodontist office with one of their 13-year-old daughters when an argument over the girl's custody took place. It was unclear what prompted the disagreement to occur, but Jon called the authorities to address the situation.

Broaching topic of divorce may be difficult for some in New York

When an individual is considering ending a marriage, he or she may feel apprehensive about broaching the subject. If a spouse has violent tendencies or other issues, this anxious feeling may be warranted. Of course, such problems may also be the reason that the person wishes to file for divorce in the first place. Unfortunately, bringing up the topic may not always go as hoped.

New York residents may be interested in one out-of-state couple's difficult situation that resulted after a woman told her husband she wanted a divorce. Reports stated that the man had mental health issues, and after learning that his wife wanted to end the marriage, he apparently became angry about the situation. Because he did not want the divorce, he took drastic measures and burned down the couple's home.

Do New York grandparents feel the effects of child custody?

Being a grandparent can come with different joys and challenges than being a parent. Though New York grandparents want to do what is best for their grandchildren, they likely also know that the children's parents have the most authority. However, this can be difficult to handle when parents go through divorce and child custody issues arise.

Though one parent may have gotten along with his or her in-laws during the marriage, divorce can often put a strain on such relationships. In some cases, residual resentment toward an ex could manifest in actions toward in-laws. As a result, a parent and grandparents could clash over decisions regarding the children -- such as whether to allow ear piercing -- due to the increased tension.

Child support awareness month: modifications may help hardships

While a joyous experience, raising children can also be an expensive endeavor. When parents divorce, this situation can become even more of a concern, as providing for children on a single income can prove difficult. Luckily, this is where child support comes in. This type of support can often help single parents make ends meet when it comes to meeting the needs of their kids.

New York residents may be interested to know that August is child support awareness month. Though divorce or other circumstances may change the manner in which a family interacts, the needs of the children often remain the same, and as a result, many families rely on this type of support. Of course, obtaining and providing the needed funds is not always easy.

3 steps to financial stability after divorce

You didn't think your marriage was perfect, but the last thing you expected was for your husband to ask for a divorce. Now that he has, you want to make sure you get everything you deserve of your marital assets and that you'll be financially stable after the divorce.

Fortunately, there are a number of things you can do to make sure you stay financially stable following divorce. These three tips can help, and your attorney may have other ideas for you, too.

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