It is not uncommon for relationships in which one spouse is overly controlling to end in divorce. Some New York residents may choose to end their marriages due to narcissistic spouses that make the relationship difficult. However, those individuals likely also know that a party who is controlling during the relationship may also try to take control during the divorce process as well. 

If children are involved, a parent could become particularly concerned that the other party may try to use the children as pawns. That party may try to manipulate child custody proceedings in order to keep the children away from the other parent or may try to start arguments in front of the children. If a difficult parent does try to argue in front of the children or make custody exchanges troublesome, the other parent may want to refrain from engaging in any arguments and bring a supportive third party when custody exchanges take place.

Similarly, keeping a diary of daily parenting could potentially prove helpful. If an ex-spouse attempts to cause unnecessary trouble by implying that the other parent is not caring for the children in a proper manner, that diary may help provide insight into the daily lives of the parent and children. Additionally, getting other communications and interactions in writing could be beneficial as well. Written documents could help disprove any false statements that a controlling individual may try to present as truth.

Divorce can be difficult for all parties involved, and when one individual is intentionally trying to make the situation harder, New York residents may wonder what options they have. Luckily, individuals can take certain steps that could prove helpful in protecting themselves and their children during divorce. Furthermore, discussing strategies with their legal counsel could help them better understand whether certain legal precautions may be necessary.

Source: The Huffington Post, “Divorcing a Narcissist: 5 Top Tips“, Bari Zell Weinberger, Oct. 6, 2015