For many children, the holiday season is one of the most exciting times of year. Much of the holiday spirit is created by the prospect of getting to see family members and other loved ones. However, for newly divorced families, it can be tricky negotiating the details of the first holiday season.

In particular, it may be difficult for grandparents to navigate the waters of divorce. Even though grandparents may want to spend time with their grandchildren during the holidays, they may have to work with both parents to make it happen. At times, parental disputes can stand in the way of grandparents being able to see their grandchildren.

In many cases, grandparents aren’t necessarily guaranteed visitation rights. This could create some difficulty. As such, it may be helpful for grandparents struggling to obtain visitation time to consult with a family law attorney who can clearly explain their rights and legal options under New York law.

At the same time, grandparents may want to be sensitive to the role of both parents in divorce. Even though it may be hard for grandparents to separate their relationship with their own children, it’s important to remember that their ex-son- or daughter-in-law may still need to maintain a relationship with the grandchildren. As such, it may be best to approach visitation inquiries thoughtfully and tactfully.

Another thing for parents and grandparents to consider is that divorce settlements should be made with the best interests of everyone in mind — this includes children. If the kids have a strong bond with their grandparents, it may be important to spell out visitation rights in that regard. This way, family holidays in the years after divorce can truly be filled with joy.

Source:, “Grandparent Visitation: 5 Tips for the Holidays,” Betty Wang, Nov. 18, 2013