No-fault divorce came to New York nearly two years ago to give couples the chance to end unhappy marriages without taking or assigning blame. Brian Cashman isn’t that lucky, despite being general manager of the New York Yankees. Cashman’s alleged, headline-grabbing affairs are costing him an “all-his-fault” divorce.

Cashman and his wife of 17 years, separated two years ago not long after rumors surfaced that Cashman was having an affair with a Westchester woman. The divorce action simmered until earlier this year when another woman was arrested.

The other woman involved had allegedly been stalking the Yankee boss in an attempt to extort money from him. Cashman’s estranged wife filed divorce papers the day after the harassment arrest, when the other woman announced she had also been a mistress of Cashman’s for over a year.

The complaint requested joint custody of the couple’s 8- and 13-year-old children, a fair split of real estate assets and permanent alimony. The divorce case was recently set to open in a public court — an expected knock-down, drag-out event sure to draw a strong media presence.

However, the high-profile, high-asset divorce may not require a trial after all. Cashman’s soon-to-be ex-wife’s attorney informed a judge finishing touches were being added to an undisclosed agreement.

Affairs don’t carry the stigma they once did during divorce, but infidelity can still affect the outcome of a divorce settlement. Cashman’s public image, and even his employment situation, could be marred by the revelation of sordid affair details.

Unfaithfulness can work as a tool on behalf of a wronged spouse. Cashman may have to forfeit valuable assets that he would otherwise fight to keep during the divorce process to keep his baseball reputation intact.

Source:, “Yankees GM settles divorce to avoid messy trial,” Reuven Fenton and Dareh Gregorian, Sept. 14, 2012